Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men

I receive a large number of emails from my fans asking for interracial dating advice for Asian men and the #1 question that gets asked is, “How will i know if she (normally a white girl, but not always) is interested in dating Asian men?”

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As the Asian Dating Coach, however, I’m finally answering the question simply because its been asked so frequently ad naseum. I’m finally likely to put it to bed for the first and before despite my misgivings.

I was recently reminded of the controversial topic (and I’ll cover exactly why it’s so controversial extensively at the bottom) on one of my many flights training men inside the art of attraction once i sat next to an extremely pretty, blonde and bubbly California surfer kind of girl.

In our conversation, she made most of the verbal indicators of interest that I’ve heard before and that I’ve come to recognize as flirtatious signals from the woman when she’s attracted specifically to Asian men (and so to the likes of you and I).

This is admittedly a rarer type of reverse Yellow Fever fraught with it’s own dangers and something in which I’ll go more into detail during my next article about single, white females who intentionally exploit Asian men.

So here is a list of some of the things these girls will consciously do so that you can let me know they want a samurai in shining armor (and while I use the term white female, the truth is other women from Black to Latin American, will also use the same flirting signals):

10 Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men

1. She “Knows” an Asian language:

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Maybe you’ve seen this kind - they put Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc. under “languages you know” on Facebook (or wear an Chinese/Asian tramp stamp) even though they really only know how to order pho.

Should you encounter these loquacious ladies, gentlemen, I suggest an awesome sexual bantering tip because each woman wants to be cultured. You, as a cosmopolitan man around the globe, are going to teach her an expression in your language. Here’s an illustration for you Chinese speakers.

First, act serious and say something similar to, “Let me teach you something. You’ll find this valuable in the far reaches during my country. Say this: Wo xi huan gou pa shi.”

Make her repeat it. Then she’ll ask “What did I only say?”

And you’ll say (within the most PLAYFUL tone and smile you can handle) “You just said ‘I enjoy it doggy-style!’” But then go from playful to romantic. After she laughs off her embarrassment, make use of your phrases to compliment her.

Teach her “Wo hao xi huan ni de xiao” and, after she repeats it, she’ll ask again. You’ll say, “It means ‘I really like your laugh.’”

And she’ll laugh again. Continue but turn it from playful to romantic. “You have beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile is amazing,” are flirtatious phrases shrouded in the learning experience.

Girls who've had the pleasure with this situation tell me it’s unique the other they’ve never forgotten. Make sure you utilize it if you know your native language!

2. She Has Asian Friends:

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Her best friend is Chinese. Her college roommate was Korean. She lived next door to a Vietanemse family. Even when they don’t have these experiences they’ll say they have some sort of Asian acceptance to produce her seem more receptive. They’ll use the most random things also; a really random story I’ve heard is the place one girl’s delivery room doctor would be a Japanese guy, so since she was “born to the arms of an Asian man” she should “die inside the arms of an Asian man also.” The point is, they are trying to form some sort of connection. [EXAMPLE: Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme was unveiled in the idea of dating Asian men by a Korean acquaintance]

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3. She Loves (Mixed) Martial Arts: I’ve never benefitted out of this personally but one of my clients is really a former North American fighting techinques champ and he’s currently a pretty famous action director and actor. He’s written if you ask me on several occasions in regards to the sexy crazy groupies that follow him and the individuals his circuit - a plentiful selection of physically fit and attractive women are constantly at his discretion. Probably the most beautiful Asian men groupies stick to the martial arts circuit, the fighting styles circuit, and similar sports-oriented social circles. If she mentions Nam Pham, Cung Le or Manny Pacquiao…ding ding ding! There is a winner!


4. She Loves Asian Food: Be it sushi, Korean BBQ or Pho, she is an Asian food “connoisseur.” If this comes up, use visual imagery to color a picture in her mind that attracts all five senses. The sweet taste of jasmine rice, the aroma of a steaming bowl of pho, the appealing colors of nigiri sushi, the crackling sound of cooking your own personal Korean BBQ, and also the cold, soft texture of delicious sashimi are stimulating and also arousing topics. Why, i hear you ask? Because speaking of food such as this is sensual…just like sex. The best way to a man’s heart is thru his stomach, right? It applies to beautiful women too.


5. She Knows A little more about Your Mother Country Than You Do: Even if she has no concrete plans, she’ll express her desires to go there. With the Japanese tsunami, she’ll express sympathy - do not take this as generalizing, she’s just trying to reach out to you. Play in to these fantasies when you can. Paint a photo about going on a vacation together. Begin with romantic depictions of you doing things together, then progress to sensual and end up having sexual. We have to open that door first through verbal imagery progression. Surfing to walking in conjunction sipping on margaritas and coconuts then you’re rolling around within the sand kissing. Use her need to your advantage.


6. She’s a Gamer or Anime-Lover:

 They express interest in anime (Sailor Moon, Akira, Pokemon, etc) and gaming (Final Fantasy and so on). This group of women aren’t really my cup of tea, but whatever floats your boat. If she likes them, fair game, that’s up to her. If she’s discussing how Akira’s going to be whitewashed then she’s attempting to relate to you. The second kind of woman wants to impress you with her knowledge of the “Asian male plight.” She’s seeking you to a point where you say something for the effect of “That is indeed amazing how much you realize!” Watch for that and indulge her


7. She Loves Asian Music: Kpop, Jrock, dramas and movies - this kind of girl is infatuated with all the Hollywood of the East. They’re probably younger plus more attractive, as this is a relatively new phenomenon, but because there’s no representation of SE Asians then she might not go for you if you’re, say, Cambodian or Viet. Or Thai. Or Filipino. Or even Chinese for that matter. I’m not to imply it won’t happen, however i can’t ever think of a time I was successful with this kind of girl despite my PUA mastery. I recently don’t look East Asian, girly, emo enough. Sometimes, she simply will not have anything less than a BIG BANG boyfriend (put simply, a Korean or Japanese guy).


8. She’ll Compliment Your Asian Attributes: Whether it is your eyes, Asian hair, or complexion, she’s going to love them and let you know it at some point in the conversation. Take her on it when she does by putting your forearm approximately hers, or if you feel more comfortable or if the conversation is certainly going well, take her hand to indicate the contrasting tones. Intangible things such as intelligence, family, work ethic, second language are not uncommon topics either. Women learn through encouragement while men learn through challenge (if you tell a girl she looks sexy in that dress, she’ll probably wear it again). Just as we had been little boys, we all do melt under the praise of a beautiful woman. When she praises my accomplishments including education or that familiarity with a second language, she’s attempting to help me learn.


9. She Loves Happa Interracial Babies:

 They’ll typically create a comment on how interracial babies are beautiful. You can bring this up as well. “Just think…if you and get married and we had a litter of the very most beautiful interracial babies…can you imagine how gorgeous they'd be?” It plays into her fantasy. Just as we men have sexual fantasies, women have “family fantasies.” They’ll deny it and push out of their minds to stay emotionally detached, but keep in mind that, by the end of this or any conversation you've with a female interested in you, she’s already imagined your future life and family…just as you’ve imagined sleeping with her.


10. She has “Asian-Dating Experience”: Here is the biggest, most obvious indicator a lady can give you that she’s into Asian men generally and you in specific. Trust me, anytime a girl has ever told me she had an Asian boyfriend before, I'm able to pretty much romantically connect with her 99.9999% of times. So a white girl that way will say that she's dated an Asian man before. She'll make this point and also further - she'll try to guess your ethnicity to exhibit that she’s “learned in the means of Asian men” and can prove that “not every body look the same.” She’ll say she’s dated a man of my ethnicity to make her seem more desirable and receptive if you ask me. So if she’s busting out this big gun, then it’s your decision to close because as signals go, it doesn’t have any bigger than this one.

With, saying, or doing one among the aforementioned things doesn’t automatically produce a girl attracted to Asian men. But combine a number of those traits or even all of them together and, gentlemen, you simply might find yourself talking to one woman that is madly in love with the Asian persuasion.

Remember the #1 Rule: When you do meet that beautiful girl, always leave the lady better than you found her!


I mentioned previously i was always reluctant to answer this question. I know it seems like a simple, straightforward question “What signals do white women give that says she’s approachable and receptive to Asian men?”

So why haven’t I answered it so far? Unfortunately, the act of wondering means your More unlikely TO SUCCEED with non-Asian women.

It’s a paradox. The truth is, I’ve always known the technical answer but I’ve always been hesitant to answer because, over a holistic level, it’s NOT empowering to Asian men in general to actually know the response to that question. I believe that the thousands of men that email me with this question are displaying what is known “learned helplessness.”

Basically, the men to whom the solution to the question “How can I tell if she’s attracted to Asian men (and for that reason me)?” is important, are training themselves to simply make a move on a non-Asian women that distinctly signal more forward dating behavior first, ahead of the man does. In other words, he wants a zero-risk, within the bag, sure-thing, 100% guarantee or perhaps your money back proposition.

As well as in today’s modern world with modern women, the last thing dating is, is risk-free.

This means instead of being a confident, masculine Asian man willing to take risks (who would then naturally attract these women whether they are white, black or Latina) and playing the Asian Card to find the beautiful woman, he instead becomes the Asian beta male that is only confident if it is instead the woman who takes the first risk. Instead of the proper way around which is the man’s role being dominant, forward, along with a leader.

I hope, however, I am not doing a disservice to Asian men by training to check, and ONLY look, of these specific female signals of attraction first before you make a move… Instead of making a move first and then making her drawn to you which she then supplies you with signals. That’s the right way.

Laugh your path into her heart (and then her pants)!

As you can see, I am a very average looking man. I am a short 5 foot 5 inches and that i know I am not an excellent looking or handsome guy. Every woman I’ve dated is physically (or even socially) out of my league. I never get those type of indicators of interest or signals of attraction. You shouldn't expect them because I certainly don’t and my success with beautiful women may be documented and faithfully captured through the media around the world.

Instead, use these signals and indicators of interest to your “Asianness” that she’s becoming attracted to you AFTER you’ve approached her and reached know her. You ought to take these 10 Signals She’s Drawn to Asian Men as signs so that you can STAY when you’re already inside a conversation with her as opposed to viewing them as indicators that you should initially approach her.

Over time, what I’ve discovered with girls that specifically that like Asian men are in a choice of it for relationship material or sugar daddies. They’ll enjoy being there but be careful because you’ll get tied down quickly with a girl that chose you, not just a girl YOU chose, which is a gross difference.

And after answering this age old question, in my next controversial interracial Asian Male White Female dating article, I’m going to address the 13 Types of Women Who Exploit Asian Men! Yes indeed, there are women who will use the above mentioned signals because she’s only attracted to your “Asianness”, but not for that reasons that you might think.

When you haven’t had the chance to get acquainted with yourself and know women, then I’d save these girls for later - all things considered, you’re here to learn grab, and quitting the sport early isn’t fair to yourself also to the many women you've yet to meet.


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